“BAD” Parenting and “MISTAKES.” How BrainMoves can help YOU Parent Positively and be Kinder to Yourself + Three Parenting Tips
By: Diane Malik Published on: 07/08/2025Being a mother or father to a preschooler can feel like an impossible job. If it is your first child or your third, sometimes you may feel like you are one day before a complicated review and you forgot to hand in a work project or that you have been given a new role but have no onboarding for how it should happen. Of course, mistakes will happen. Your child is unique; you are unique. Every situation is unique. There is no guidebook. There’s also no black and white. Remember that part of childhood development is transitioning from black-and-white thinking into a more nuanced way of reviewing our world. When we’re stressed, we, as adults, can sometimes revert back to that childhood black-and-white thinking. What does this mean for parenting? You may feel a situation is disastrous: Maybe you’ve said the wrong thing and the child cried, you lost your temper, or maybe you forgot something important like a parent-teacher meeting or a doctor’s appointment. Perhaps you simply overcommitted yourself and you don’t feel “present.” In that moment it may feel like the exact opposite of what should have happened HAS happened and you feel guilty. Your brain could process this as “Oh, that was a mistake. That was BAD.”
Ask Diane, My Boisterous Child
By: Diane Malik Published on: 23/07/2025I am reaching out because I am concerned about my preschooler, Luke, who is displaying some challenging behaviors that are becoming increasingly difficult for us to manage. Luke is often restless and hyperactive, frequently running around and bumping into other children and even walls. It seems like he doesn’t fully understand how to play nicely with others, which often leads to tears or even accidentally injuring other children during playtime. He isn’t even unkind; he seems to just be loud, boisterous, and rough and tumble all day until he falls asleep like a log, exhausted at night.
Behavior IS Preschool Communication:
By: Diane Malik Published on: 16/07/2025Preschoolers' language skills allow them to communicate verbs and nouns, but they tend to live in the present tense—the present moment. Your child is concerned with the way they feel RIGHT NOW. For example, not only do they not have language for delayed gratification, but they may also struggle to understand the difference between not having a cookie at the moment versus never having cookies again. This "timeless" grammar, in combination with black-and-white thinking, can mean that when you say, "No cookies until your room is clean," the child's brain may process...
BrainMoves for more Peaceful Transitions at Home
By: Diane Malik Published on: 09/07/2025Last week, we talked about how transitions between activities in a preschool classroom can be a challenge. Well, we know the same thing can happen at home. Preschool brains and bodies can respond intensely to stimuli, interruptions of games, or when asked to participate in necessary quiet times for naps. They can also struggle with pauses in motion, such as waiting for a snack, meal, or in line at the grocery store with a parent. Today, we are going to match some specific BrainMoves movements to specific at-home transitions to make your family’s time together more calm and fun.
